How to have an intervention with less conflict than you'd think
Many think of A&E’s television show when they think of an intervention–but shows like this tend to focus on conflict for the sake of entertainment.
Bruce Perkins says it doesn’t need to be this dramatic. With ample experience in the field of mental health and substance abuse, Bruce is a specialist on the subject.
“An intervention should always build a person up and completely refrain from judgment . . .
Unfortunately, this is very difficult for most families.”
Families wonder: ‘when is it time to intervene?’
Bruce explains, “The people surrounding the individual often observe symptoms of this disease before the individual is aware of it themselves-that’s the nature of this beast–it’s something that the addict can’t directly observe in themselves without help.
If the individual has a history of addictive behavior, the family usually needs to trust their instincts and bring in help.”
We asked Bruce about the most common mistake he sees families make when they try to help their loved one:
“That’s easy–the biggest mistake is trying to do it alone. Planning one is stressful and requires a third party for the added perspective. While it may be stressful, it should be centered around building a person up. It should be centered around love and support. Many families find themselves criticizing and giving long sermons–these things don’t seem to have the desired effect in the field.
Remember that talking to a specialist does not commit you to the big dramatic scene we see on TV shows—every situation is different. Yours may not require an intervention, but it never hurts to call someone and find out.”
Those struggling with addiction often feel trapped and alone. When the family learns of the addiction, they feel isolated as well. The message from Bruce is clear: “You don’t have to do this alone!’